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Resilience

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Resilience is critical now.  We who are awake and aware of what is happing in our nation are traumatized every day.  Any trauma we experienced before today adds to the trauma of today.  It is cumulative. And it does not seem to be slowing down. Remember, whatever your are experiencing, you can handle it.  You have the inner strength to make life work under extreme circumstance. Everyone does.  It is your birth right.  Do not compare yourself with others.  Take care of yourself, then you can give to others. https://images.app.goo.gl/eKgEKpeMvZea56dn8 It seems the strengths that build resilience are competence in something, commitment, connection, communication, and control over what you do actually have control over. A few suggestions that may help in building your resilience are listed below Skills first discovered thousand of years ago and practiced by early natives are incredibly helpful. 1.  Do no harm.  Try to be kind to everyone you greet.  If this is impossible, just smile and wa

MASKS of LIfe

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A few years ago, my family went to a mask workshop.  We got to meet a mask maker and see a show where he used all of his masks in a drama. When I think back on this family time, I remember all of the masks I wore in my lifetime.  Some were actual masks because I collect them and wear them sometimes.  But many masks were artificial roles I took on as life went by year by year. As a child, by age two, I was an angry child.  I decided if I couldn't get attention by being good, then I would be bad as I could be.  Here is a mask I would have chosen for that time. Once my parents were worn down from trying to manage my rage, a few "solutions" were put into effect which caused me to live outside my body, not in a good way, for several years.  Here is the mask I chose for that period. I did not want to be seen.  I was ashamed of myself most of the time right up until sixth grade.  I may have had moments of joy and happiness, but my default status was hiding as much as possible. A

Self Help Groups are Not About Conversion

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 Or TAKE WHAT YOU LIKE AND LEAVE THE REST. She used to accept people as equals who were hell bent on keeping her in a one-down position.  A one-down position was here place in childhood.   One such person was a “friend” from a support group. They call them “sponsors,” and they are like “Conversion Christians.” Conversion is the most important thing to those who are hypocrites. Most people who sponsor prefer a one-down position because they believe they have a market on “The Way.” The sickest people go to support groups. Even sicker are the ones who never make it to a support group. That’s why one of the support group traditions is, “Principles before personalities.” If you go regularly, follow the steps and traditions and listen, you will eventually feel better.  It seems so many people want to strip you of your ego, which is not helpful in the long run. The ego has a purpose, it just cannot lead the way.  It must ultimately be a passenger. This is what Conversion Christians cannot do

Abject Hopelessness, without Pride or Dignity

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 My hopelessness is abject.   We are a nation completely devoid of pride or dignity.   Things I have learned:  I am not certain who to trust.  Maybe I will just trust myself!  I am not alone! I am a loving, kind, empathetic person! The World is struggling right now!   Things I have discovered: Although I am sure they are a varied group of people in terms of characteristics, some people on this Earth, family members, enablers, sycophants and megaphones, all have a few things in common.   1.The intention from the beginning was to destroy USA for various reasons.  I now know what those people in NAZI Germany felt like who helplessly watched Hitler’s rise and even spoke using their voice to object.   2. I discovered yesterday I am pitied and seem weak to them.  I went a house flying the White Supremacist flag, hoping to educate them about the dangers of their beliefs,  When I said I was afraid for our Nation and our People, the couple felt pity for me and sa

THE PARABLE OF THE TWO DEBTORS

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One of the Pharisees, Simon, invited Jesus to eat with him.  Jesus entered into the Pharisee's house, and sat at the table.  Behold, a woman in the city who was seen as a sinner, Mary Magdalene, when she knew that he was reclining in the Pharisee's house, she brought an alabaster jar of ointment. Standing behind at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears, and she wiped them with the hair of her head, kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment.  Now when Simon, who had invited him saw it and said to himself, "This man, if he were a prophet, would have perceived who and what kind of woman this is who touches him, that she is a sinner."  Jesus answered him, "Simon, I have something to tell you." He said, "Teacher, say on." "A certain lender had two debtors. The one owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. When they couldn't pay, he forgave them both. Which of them therefore will love him most?" Simon a

One Body with Many Parts

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Rumi, Sufi Poet.  The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Humanity. Some of us are religious, some are not. But we have all been received one body by one Spirit, and we all share the same Spirit. Yes, the body has many different parts, not just one part. If the foot says, “I am not a part of the body because I am not a hand,” that does not make it any less a part of the body. If the ear says." "I'm not part of the body, I'n not an eye," is that any less a part of the body? If the whole body were an eye, how would you hear? Or if your whole body were an ear, how would you smell anything? But our bodies have many parts, and nature has put each part where it should be. How strange a body would be if it had only one part! Yes, there are many parts, but only one body. The eye can never say to the hand, “I don’t need you.” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you.” In fact, some parts of the body that

Vulnerability Clause

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Dear people worried about how you will be judged by others: Your life comes with a Vulnerability Clause. The clause reads: “To be sincerely vulnerable gives you strength.” Anais Nin This clause is built into the part of you that is worthy of your attention. This is the part of you who lies above the surface of the water. Your Ego. The part that waits for you “out beyond ideas of right and wrong” (Rumi) is your spirit.   It already knows this clause intimately. This is the deepest, wisest voice available to you. The deepest voice does not concern itself with outcome or favor. It concerns itself only with wisdom, practical application of wisdom. It can only come from inside you. It never comes from “out there.” Vulnerability Wisdom comes up from the base of your spine, across the crown of your head and spreads into your body like a soft, gentle rain. It is the most feminine voice you have (Man or Woman). “Try this,” it says. When you are honest with yourself, have investi

The Good Leader

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Good Leaders are hard to find sometimes.    Qualifications for a good leader are: ·         Sweeping o    Inclusive o    Inviting ·         Uplifting o    Visionary o    Motivational ·         Conscientious o    Honest o    Introspective ·         Courteous o    Humble o    Respectful ·         Eager o    Collaborative o    Excited to share ·         Sanguine o    Optimistic o    Expressive ·         Sincere o    Forthcoming o    Wise ·         Flowing o    Informative o    Instructional ·         Understood o    Engaging o    Connecting ·         Learned o    Efficient o    Organized These qualities create the circumstances which will lead to a   leader who is bound to be SUCCESSFUL . A person who embraces the qualities will lead those interested in being led to a wise and sophisticated understanding of themselves and the ability to develop these qualities themselves.   What makes a bad leader then?   There are many