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Winter is Coming

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 A time of slowing down (unless you are on the mountain), cooling off (unless you are near the equator), and introspection (unless you are binge-watching Sopranos), winter provides many opportunities to learn more about yourself, become more who your are (rather than a hypnotized robot for someone else) and how you do things. Image purchase from Shutterstock In this stressful last few years of living, it is important to return to yourself, be true to who you are and commit to becoming the best “you” possible. When I say the “best,” I don’t mean perfect. Any of you who know me know that I am far from perfect. I stay on a path, that’s all. Do you have a path? Do you know where you are going? Do you want to choose your future to a certain extent? Do you want to make better choices in your daily life? Psychotherapy, done the right way, can assist you in manifesting a future you will choose. You might as well know as much about yourself as possible, what past experiences drive you off track

How We Fight Our Battles Matters

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As a person in the profession of counseling, I can tell you that I came to it from my brokenness. As I have grown through the years, I have sorted the helpful from the unhelpful advice people have freely, and for profit, given to me. I have come from a place of innocence through ignorance to insight, understanding, knowledge, and awareness.  I am moving to enlightenment, wisdom, and illumination.  I am a life long teacher and learner. I was born a warrior. That is a good thing, because I have fought hard for myself. I was recovering from physical, sexual, emotional, and religious abuse. I was gaslighted into thinking my loved ones were only doing what was best for me.  I was brainwashed by religion to the point where I completely lost myself in the process. Racism and bigotry colored many of my thoughts, words, and actions through my unconscious mind. I honestly could not help myself.  I was a perpetual victim, always and innocent victim of unfortunate circumstances outside of myself,

Self Enquiry, The Empowering Practice

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Self Enquiry is THE empowering practice. If you do not know yourself, you can not know how your unconscious mind sabotages you. This practice invites you to mediate yourself, manage your emotional and sensory impulses and take responsibility for yourself. It is as old as time.  First practiced 3000 years ago by wise people, you need no equipment or special place to practice.   Marie Louise Bosin is inviting you to a one hour Zoom meeting with her. Topic: Wellness through Self-Enquiry Time: Any time you choose.  Call or email for to schedule an appointment time. $10 per person for the hour.

The Dark Triad

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 If you are in a relationships now and you are experiencing abuse of any kind, think twice about the relationship. There is a phenomenon that is called the Dark Triad. Narcissism:  selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need for admiration Psychopathy : a personality disorder characterized by persistent antisocial behavior, impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited, and egotistical traits. Machiavellianism : a personality trait which sees a person so focused on their own interests they will manipulate, deceive, and exploit others to achieve their goals. (wikipedia) If you want to sort out how safe you are in a relationship with a person who has similar traits as this, consider Psychotherapy for YOURSELF. Patients with these traits are not easily treated or cured.

YUGA

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As far as we can tell, Homo Sapiens have been roaming the earth since 300,000 BC. The earliest Homo Sapiens, Archaic Homo Sapiens, are found in archeological digs in Africa along the east coast. “What does the name Homo sapiens mean? The name we selected for ourselves means ‘wise human’. Homo is the Latin word for ‘human’ or ‘man’ and sapiens is derived from a Latin word that means ‘wise’ or ‘astute’.” Homo sapiens - modern humans All people living today belong to the species Homo sapiens. We evolved only relatively recently but with complex… australian.museum The transition to Modern Homo Sapiens occurred around 150,000 BC. This transition happened all around the world because of migration. Migration and adaptability are the two key survival strategies of “MAN” from 300,000 BC. What happened on Earth is scientifically described as a rapidly changing environment with water-based life forms being the first organic being on Earth. This is an ancient Samkhya painting that shows t

Wellness through Radical Self-Enquiry

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Self-enquiry is not a skill usually taught to children. Some parents care enough about their children to teach them how to do this. They ask questions which lead with curiosity, questions which wonder about what  the child is experiencing on the inside. Self-enquiry is the quickest way to emotional regulation, managing negative self-talk, and managing sensory stimulation. The key is when activated by anything, pleasurable or painful. Self-enquiry is discussed by Denver Frederick, Host of "Business of Giving" in an interview with Jerry Colona, Author. https://www.denver-frederick.com/2021/03/19/why-radical-self-inquiry-is-critical-to-professional-success-and-healthy-relationships/ "When those of us hold power, either by dint of the meat bag that we occupy, or by the role that we have in society, when we allow those unconscious forces to stay in the unconscious, we are much more likely to do damage in the organizations, in our communities, in our society." Denver Fred

Resilience

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Resilience is critical now.  We who are awake and aware of what is happing in our nation are traumatized every day.  Any trauma we experienced before today adds to the trauma of today.  It is cumulative. And it does not seem to be slowing down. Remember, whatever your are experiencing, you can handle it.  You have the inner strength to make life work under extreme circumstance. Everyone does.  It is your birth right.  Do not compare yourself with others.  Take care of yourself, then you can give to others. https://images.app.goo.gl/eKgEKpeMvZea56dn8 It seems the strengths that build resilience are competence in something, commitment, connection, communication, and control over what you do actually have control over. A few suggestions that may help in building your resilience are listed below Skills first discovered thousand of years ago and practiced by early natives are incredibly helpful. 1.  Do no harm.  Try to be kind to everyone you greet.  If this is impossible, just smile and wa

MASKS of LIfe

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A few years ago, my family went to a mask workshop.  We got to meet a mask maker and see a show where he used all of his masks in a drama. When I think back on this family time, I remember all of the masks I wore in my lifetime.  Some were actual masks because I collect them and wear them sometimes.  But many masks were artificial roles I took on as life went by year by year. As a child, by age two, I was an angry child.  I decided if I couldn't get attention by being good, then I would be bad as I could be.  Here is a mask I would have chosen for that time. Once my parents were worn down from trying to manage my rage, a few "solutions" were put into effect which caused me to live outside my body, not in a good way, for several years.  Here is the mask I chose for that period. I did not want to be seen.  I was ashamed of myself most of the time right up until sixth grade.  I may have had moments of joy and happiness, but my default status was hiding as much as possible. A

Self Help Groups are Not About Conversion

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 Or TAKE WHAT YOU LIKE AND LEAVE THE REST. She used to accept people as equals who were hell bent on keeping her in a one-down position.  A one-down position was here place in childhood.   One such person was a “friend” from a support group. They call them “sponsors,” and they are like “Conversion Christians.” Conversion is the most important thing to those who are hypocrites. Most people who sponsor prefer a one-down position because they believe they have a market on “The Way.” The sickest people go to support groups. Even sicker are the ones who never make it to a support group. That’s why one of the support group traditions is, “Principles before personalities.” If you go regularly, follow the steps and traditions and listen, you will eventually feel better.  It seems so many people want to strip you of your ego, which is not helpful in the long run. The ego has a purpose, it just cannot lead the way.  It must ultimately be a passenger. This is what Conversion Christians cannot do

THE PARABLE OF THE TWO DEBTORS

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One of the Pharisees, Simon, invited Jesus to eat with him.  Jesus entered into the Pharisee's house, and sat at the table.  Behold, a woman in the city who was seen as a sinner, Mary Magdalene, when she knew that he was reclining in the Pharisee's house, she brought an alabaster jar of ointment. Standing behind at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears, and she wiped them with the hair of her head, kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment.  Now when Simon, who had invited him saw it and said to himself, "This man, if he were a prophet, would have perceived who and what kind of woman this is who touches him, that she is a sinner."  Jesus answered him, "Simon, I have something to tell you." He said, "Teacher, say on." "A certain lender had two debtors. The one owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. When they couldn't pay, he forgave them both. Which of them therefore will love him most?" Simon a

One Body with Many Parts

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Rumi, Sufi Poet.  The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Humanity. Some of us are religious, some are not. But we have all been received one body by one Spirit, and we all share the same Spirit. Yes, the body has many different parts, not just one part. If the foot says, “I am not a part of the body because I am not a hand,” that does not make it any less a part of the body. If the ear says." "I'm not part of the body, I'n not an eye," is that any less a part of the body? If the whole body were an eye, how would you hear? Or if your whole body were an ear, how would you smell anything? But our bodies have many parts, and nature has put each part where it should be. How strange a body would be if it had only one part! Yes, there are many parts, but only one body. The eye can never say to the hand, “I don’t need you.” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you.” In fact, some parts of the body that

Vulnerability Clause

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Dear people worried about how you will be judged by others: Your life comes with a Vulnerability Clause. The clause reads: “To be sincerely vulnerable gives you strength.” Anais Nin This clause is built into the part of you that is worthy of your attention. This is the part of you who lies above the surface of the water. Your Ego. The part that waits for you “out beyond ideas of right and wrong” (Rumi) is your spirit.   It already knows this clause intimately. This is the deepest, wisest voice available to you. The deepest voice does not concern itself with outcome or favor. It concerns itself only with wisdom, practical application of wisdom. It can only come from inside you. It never comes from “out there.” Vulnerability Wisdom comes up from the base of your spine, across the crown of your head and spreads into your body like a soft, gentle rain. It is the most feminine voice you have (Man or Woman). “Try this,” it says. When you are honest with yourself, have investi